Tuesday, February 14, 2012

Just One

As I was eating a few conversation heart candies this evening, a phrase written upon one of them struck me unpredictably hard. It simply said, "just one". Knowing that it was most likely referring to a boyfriend/girlfriend, or a husband/wife, I commented on the fact that it would be hard to eat only one piece of candy. Haha. So funny. :-P
But then I thought further about those words, and the item upon which they were written.

Just one. Written on a piece of candy. Often times, handsome guys, or gorgeous girls are called "eye candy". And sadly, quite frequently many people who acquire that term don't have "just one" girlfriend, or boyfriend. Or even when they are married, their spouse isn't always the only one for them. They welcome, or even encourage attention from others of the opposite sex, instead of seeking it from their spouse. (I'm not saying that this only happens to the amazing-looking people, sadly it is common with all sorts.)

But how does this happen? How do people get to the point where their spouse(or the one whom they hope to be their spouse in the future), suddenly isn't quite enough anymore? I have a theory that this is similar to eating candy.

When you eat a piece of candy, it usually tastes good, and makes you happy. Then you want more, because you remember that taste and pleasure you received from it. If you're not careful, you'll end up eating far more candy than you should have.

The same goes with people. If we are attracted to someone, and if spending time with that person makes us happy, then we want it to continue. We want more. The problem comes when we seek those attentions over those of our own spouse. We should never rely on people to whom we are not married to bring us happiness and companionship.
And if your spouse just isn't making the grade, then work on it yourself! Find out what makes them happy, and in so doing you should be able to find joy and happiness for yourself, too. And the companionship you desire.

"Oh, yes. You are one to talk," you might be saying to me right now. Yes, yes I know that I am single. So I've never experienced being married. But I do know that your closest friend of the opposite sex, should be your spouse.

And getting back to the "eye candy" stuff, I know that as a single person, if you allow yourself to be enticed by just any(or every) fabulous person, you are in for trouble. Before marriage, you should get used to the idea of only having one person from whom you seek your happiness and companionship.

I do have to admit that I don't have this all learned yet. And I need to be satisfied in "just One" right now. He is my Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. Maybe someday He will bring a guy along that will put these thoughts to the test.

[Sorry that this was so long winded. I just had to get it out. And please excuse any false ideas that I may have voiced. If you noticed any, or have any insight or input into this, please leave a comment on the blog. Although I moderate comments, I readily welcome them.] =)


  1. You know why this happens. :) I a poor miserable sinner.... ;)
    Great post and I'm glad you put the paragraph where you said "closest friend of the opposite sex."
    Cause, as you know Superman is my best friend. But he isn't female so there are women friends who are close in a different way. :) Like you. :) And, especially for women - but men need this too, friends of the same sex are crucial to sanity. :)

  2. There he was, just right around life's corner!! Cherylfayewitt